Every woman, on their wedding day, should be positively and completely enshrouded in an environment of love and perfect trust; the ultimate holiness of the relationship is the single thing which, at the time, should possess her soul.
Girls shouldn’t “obey” men any more than men should obey girls. There are 6 requirements in a happy marriage: the first is Faith, and the other five are Confidence. Nothing so compliments a person as for a girl to trust in him; nothing so pleases a lady as for a person to put confidence in her. Obey? God help me! Yes, if I loved a girl, my entire deepest wish is usually to obey her slightest wish. And how could I adore her unless I had perfect confidence that she would only aim to what was wonderful, true and right? And to allow her to realize this ideal, her wish is to me a holy command; and her disposition of mind towards me I know would be the same. And the sole contest between us would be as to who could love the most; and the need to obey would be the one controlling impulse of our lives. We gain liberty by giving it, and he who bestows faith gets it back with interest. (more…)